In case you missed them, here are videos to my Aish.com/live sessions during April and May:
In case you missed them, here are videos to my Aish.com/live sessions during April and May:
The Annual Mark Raiffie Memorial Lecture invites you to join us virtually as we present Rabbi Yaakov Salomon, noted psychotherapist, speaking on What Should You Do When You Don’t Know What To Do? Rabbi Salomon will share 3 personal stories of difficult dilemmas that he faced, how he came to his decision and how it worked out.
This lecture is sponsored in loving memory of Mark by the Raiffie Family. Mark Raiffie’s life was cut short, but his smile, charm and love will be with us forever. His dedication to his family and friends will live on as an inspiration to us all.
We hope you enjoy Robert Walker’s video on HOW TO CHANGE PEOPLE’S MINDS ABOUT ISRAEL.
Co-sponsored by Aish Hatorah of St. Louis and St. Louis Friends of Israel
Season 1, Episode 4
“Yom Kippur Questions that I’ve
Season 1, Episode 3
“Do You Have Questions About the
Rosh Hashanah Service?”
Season 1, Episode 1 Season 1, Episode 2
“What We Are Praying For and “A Prayer and A Rocket”
Why We Are Addressed”
This lesson is extremely pertinent at this time. We have been bombarded with ever escalating numbers of people sick and dying from the corona virus, and it is easy to forget that behind each number is an individual human being who had a family. The message here is that we must strive to remember the lesson of the Ramban, and to not become immune when we hear of another tragedy. The following story demonstrates this point: It is well known that in the Gulf War, the Iraqis launched 39 scud missiles into Israel, and miraculously only one person was killed. This was clearly a great miracle, as in other areas, such missiles killed numerous people. I once read that a relative of the single person killed decried the fact that there was a stress that ‘only’ one person died — that person was a human being who is made in the Image of God and is of priceless value. This drives home the importance of the value of every single human life.
Brainstorming with Baars
The Head of the Family Tree
by Rabbi Stephen Baar
(This week’s parsha is based on an idea by Rabbi Moshe Chaifetz, as explained in “Growth Through Torah” by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin.) “A fool and a wise man were walking together through a cemetery when they came upon a rather large tombstone. The stone told of the deceased’s long line of great and distinguished ancestors. The fool said how he, too, wished he had come from such a lineage. The wise man, however, desired for such a lineage to come from him.” When our children will reflect back upon their parents’ lives, what will they see?
Will they look to our lives for inspiration for solving their problems? Will we be for them a lasting influence, or rather just a quaint memory?
It would be nice to think that we could be sources of wisdom for our children — that they will bring to us the problems they face, that they will seek out our wise counsel; that in a crisis they will think back and ask, “How did Mom and Dad deal with that”? On the other hand, what a depressing thought if our children would think of us as irrelevant.
Children do not go to their parents for advice when the parents aren’t perceived as really happy. If life is always “getting to you,” then your kids are not going to ask you how to manage life. In fact, they will probably give you the advice instead!
This week’s parsha begins with a command from God to Moshe to count the Jewish people. Moshe was also told to enlist the help of the heads of each tribe, “And with you (Moshe) shall be one man from each tribe, each man should be the head of his family.” (Numbers 1:4). Explains Rabbi Moshe Chaifetz, ‘the head of one’s family is someone who is the beginning of a new lineage. The ‘head’ is the start of a new line. In other words, someone the children will be proud of. Instead of worrying what everyone else is saying about you, worry that your children will have something good to say about you, to everyone else.
The Torah tells us that Abraham would actually seek out guests, strangers, and offer them a meal. This was not the norm then and it’s certainly not the norm now. He was remembered for that. It affected his children and grandchildren. Even today, the Jewish people are known for their kindness to strangers. You don’t start a lineage by conforming.
We live in a very materialistic society. Many choose to spend their time acquiring objects rather than acquiring their children’s admiration. We tend to worry more over bills than morals. We tend to get upset with others quicker than we apologize. Do we want to make these the values of our children? How we approach almost every aspect of life is going to be how our children will too.
When someone spills red wine on your favorite sofa, getting extremely upset may help you vent your anger, but it also shows your child what you think is really important in life. The sofa may be cleaned and the spot removed, but the spot in your child’s personality does not come out so easily.
We are willing to put in the effort to make our children richer and more comfortable than ourselves. How much more meaningful would it be to make them happier or even kinder than ourselves.
We are already going to spend a major amount of effort, time and even money on our children, why not spend a little more effort and transform them into our legacy. Be kinder than everyone else…. Be more forgiving than everyone else…. Be more giving and willing to help than everyone else…. Be more patient than everyone else…. Your own kind and generous actions are examples of giving to others which are more likely to create an exceptional child than any amount of schooling — no matter how high the tuition. Dollar for dollar, the things you give to others and the degree to which you run to help people will influence and sensitize your children to the value of life more than any after school activity.
With the high price of education and the small price of patience, charity, and kindness, shouldn’t we be more involved with the bargains?
What do you want your children to remember about you?
sk your children who their heroes are. Are they the kind of role models you would choose for them?
When things go wrong, do you panic, or do you realize that there is more to life than a dent in the car? Are guests more important than the color coordination of the carpet and drapes?
If you could write your own tombstone, what five praises or achievements would you like engraved on it?
Singing a Different Tune
by Nesanel Yoel Safran
Not everybody is the same. Some people are more interested in one thing and some in something else. God made each of us special with something unique to contribute to society. In our Torah portion, God tells Moses to count the people by making a census. He says to be sure to count the people according to their individual tribes and families, and not just lump everyone together. This teaches us the important lesson of the uniqueness of each group within the whole, and how everyone has something special to offer. God doesn’t want or expect everyone to be the same.
“A Different Drum”
Lance came from a family of football stars. He was the youngest of four brothers, all of whom had been football stars. They all expected him to follow in their footsteps. But Lance was different. He just never really loved football the way his brothers did. What he did love was music. When his brothers were out of the house, and he knew they wouldn’t tease him, Lance used to sneak up to the attic in his house, and spend hours practicing on an old flute that he had found up there in a dusty corner. He kept it up all summer.
But now school was starting again and Lance was old enough this year to try out for the football team. And, of course, all his family assumed he would. But Lance sure wasn’t looking forward to it. He felt even worse when, the day before tryouts, his dad came home with a big package and said, “Well son, I always bought your brothers their football equipment, so I guess I owe you too.”
Lance cringed. How was he going to explain to his Dad he didn’t want any football equipment. That he didn’t even want to play football!
Just when he thought he would burst, his dad unwrapped the package and took out a brand new … flute!
“Dad, you got me a flute?” gasped Lance.
His father smiled and put his hand on the boy’s shoulder and said, “Listen Lance, I know you love playing your mom’s old flute more than playing football. And you’re good, too. I want you to succeed at what you love. It’s okay that you’re different from your brothers. Everyone was created differently and you owe it to yourself to be who you are and not just who everyone things you should be.”
“Thanks Dad!” cried Lance.
His dad handed him the new flute and said, “Son, just keep being yourself and you’ll always be a star in my book.”
Ages 3 – 5 How did Lance feel when he thought his family wanted him to play football?
Ages 6 – 9 Do you think if Lance decided to play football in order to please his family, he would be happy? What if he became a star?
Ages 10 + up The Sages quoted in the “Ethics of the Fathers” say that a wise person learns from everyone. Do you think everyone has something to teach? Why?
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Please join me for these Zoom classes this month (except for Mamas in Pajamas that is still via conference call; Zoom link is below)
Each Friday in May (except May 29th, Shavuos) 6:30 pm Light the Fire of Shabbos with me to introduce Shabbat candles and Rabbi Shmuel Greenwald on the how to’s of Shabbat
Monday, May 18th 8:30 pm Live Conference Call (via phone as usual) Mamas in Pajamas from the comfort of your own home. Dial: 605-472-5814 Access code: 126-753-373
Friday, May 22nd 10:00 am Virtual Challah Baking at Home
Get all your ingredients ready to bake Challah with me at home
Wednesday, May 27th 11:00 am Pre-Shavuos Brunch
Bring you own Brunch to this enlightening discussion that celebrates our receiving our Torah at Mt. Sinai
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